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Dear Dish-It, My Friend Is Being Neglected


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I wrote a letter not too long ago about my pal Andrew, and how he is neglected. He comes down to our softball practices in no shirt, ripped jeans, and no shoes. His dog has a huge room all to itself in their rinky-dink shack of a house, and Andrew sleeps on the floor in a closet. His dad is in jail, and his mom drives a bus out of state every two weeks and is gone for days at a time. I really need some advice. Do I buy him some shoes, socks, pants, etc.? Or do I just stay out of it? PLEASE ANSWER SOON!
spyware315


Dear spyware315,

It's really cool that you're looking out for the well-being of your friend, when even his own parents don't seem to be doing so. When a kid is being neglected, it's a pretty serious matter - one that a new pair of shoes probably won't fix. But you're definitely on the right track. You can make small gestures like inviting him over for dinner, letting him spend time with you and your family and offering up some of your lunch next time you're in the cafeteria together. Also, instead of running out to buy him brand new clothes, why not offer him some of your old clothes that you would probably be giving away to good will anyway. A lot of the time when people are in need of help, they don't know how to ask for it, and it makes it easier when those around them don't make a huge deal about it. You should also get a trusted adult involved in helping Andrew. Whether it's your 'rents or a school counselor, someone should know about his situation so they can attempt to get him the help he really needs. Hope this helps - Good Luck!


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    rainbowpoptart
    Yes, purely for the fact that you should not "hate" your sister (or anyone, for that matter).  I'm guessing by "get in trouble for her", you mean she does something wrong and the blame is all put on you? Yeah, little siblings tend to do that a lot. My brother did for the longest time, until my parents found out how much a liar he is. She, hopefully, will grow out of this eventually. Either that, or your parent[s]/guardian[s] will eventually see through her. You lose your friends to her? By this do you mean your friends want to hang out with her and they want you to tag along and you don't? Or do you mean your friends chose your sister over you? If it's the latter, then perhaps you shouldn't have ever referred to those people as friends. You'll find friends who'll prefer you over your sister, I'm sure of it. The only thing I can tell you to do is try to get along with your sister. Every group of siblings has their cats and dogs moment in life, but they grow out of it (most of the time; there are, of course, circumstances where it doesn't work out that way). Please be grateful for your sister, even if you two fight a lot. You never know how much you need something until it's gone.
    reply about 6 hours
    liddielover
    i hate my little sister because i get introuble for her and lose my friends to her.is that wrong?
    reply about 7 hours
    skylar245
    skylar245 posted in Friends:
    "rainbowpoptart" wrote: "skylar245" wrote: Teacher said to wait for the Bus Driver and the counselor, she just talks to me and doesn't tell The Princible Then maybe try telling the principal yourself, and you should also report that the driver, teacher, and counselor haven't done anything to help you. If that fails, tell another trusted adult, like your mother. I'm sure someone you're close to would do their best to get justice. This is a major problem and it's a shame no one's done anything to help. ​No one listens to me anyway but my friends
    reply 2 days
    rainbowpoptart
    rainbowpoptart posted in Friends:
    "skylar245" wrote:Teacher said to wait for the Bus Driver and the counselor, she just talks to me and doesn't tell The Princible Then maybe try telling the principal yourself, and you should also report that the driver, teacher, and counselor haven't done anything to help you. If that fails, tell another trusted adult, like your mother. I'm sure someone you're close to would do their best to get justice. This is a major problem and it's a shame no one's done anything to help.
    reply 2 days
    skylar245
    skylar245 posted in Friends:
    "rainbowpoptart" wrote: "skylar245" wrote: My bus driver does NOTHING about it EVEN IF HE SEE'S IT! he only wrote the two girls up but not the girl that hit me Then report them to a teacher or the school counselor. Behaviour like that is not acceptable in the slightest. ​Teacher said to wait for the Bus Driver and the counselor, she just talks to me and doesn't tell The Princible
    reply 2 days