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Dear Dish-It, My Friend Is Being Neglected

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Dear Dish-It,

I wrote a letter not too long ago about my pal Andrew, and how he is neglected. He comes down to our softball practices in no shirt, ripped jeans, and no shoes. His dog has a huge room all to itself in their rinky-dink shack of a house, and Andrew sleeps on the floor in a closet. His dad is in jail, and his mom drives a bus out of state every two weeks and is gone for days at a time. I really need some advice. Do I buy him some shoes, socks, pants, etc.? Or do I just stay out of it? PLEASE ANSWER SOON!
spyware315


Dear spyware315,

It's really cool that you're looking out for the well-being of your friend, when even his own parents don't seem to be doing so. When a kid is being neglected, it's a pretty serious matter - one that a new pair of shoes probably won't fix. But you're definitely on the right track. You can make small gestures like inviting him over for dinner, letting him spend time with you and your family and offering up some of your lunch next time you're in the cafeteria together. Also, instead of running out to buy him brand new clothes, why not offer him some of your old clothes that you would probably be giving away to good will anyway. A lot of the time when people are in need of help, they don't know how to ask for it, and it makes it easier when those around them don't make a huge deal about it. You should also get a trusted adult involved in helping Andrew. Whether it's your 'rents or a school counselor, someone should know about his situation so they can attempt to get him the help he really needs. Hope this helps - Good Luck!


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    Liyah_Mahone

    Liyah_Mahone wrote:

    i would be there for him if he would be going though a tough time thats what friends ar...
    commented: Tue Jul 23, 2013

    lillyflower637
    That really sucks. I read the story and it made me want to help him SO bad. You sound l...
    commented: Thu Jul 18, 2013

    :)CrAzYcAkE:)

    :)CrAzYcAkE:) wrote:

    thats so sad i cant believe things like this happen everyday to alot of people so sad :...
    commented: Mon Nov 12, 2012

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    SelenaGomezFanGirl
    ...im not too sure what the brown stuff is,but since you said you have not done it,you should trust yourself.And talk about it to your mom!I'm sure she will give you the best of advices and stuff because she would have probably experienced it before.So,don't be afraid,and approach her when she's vacant!Good Luck!
    reply about 20 hours
    SelenaGomezFanGirl
    no you shouldn't!I bet, the friends that are pressuring you are girls only because they are jealous of your girl,because of her personality and style,and probably, most likely that they wanna be your girlfriend as well! ~~comment me back if you like!:)                                                          
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    OptimisticJollygirl
    You are perfect the way you are.
    reply 1 day
    InternetOwl
    InternetOwl posted in Friends:
    I'm not sure whether you have actual depression or not (Ask your doctor if you feel you do, they'll be able to help. ^^), but I'm really sorry you feel depressed. I've been there too, and it really does feel like no one cares.   I know you said it's awkward, but try talking to your dad about it. You said he's the only one who seems to listen, so I'm sure he will listen and try to understand. If you start feeling really depressed every day, try doing things to make you feel happier. I don't know what you like to do, but you should do things like relaxing, reading, talking to people and spending more time outside. Smiling more often can help relieve stress and make you happier as well. c: Try meeting new people too. It seems as though your current friends are bringing you down, so you can try to talk to them if you like or find more friends who'll listen and care about you (however, try to keep your old friends as well. They are your friends after all, and it's hard being lonely). You've got friends on here too. But please don't think about doing anything harmful to yourself. You might not be thinking like that now, but being depressed can lead people to this and it's really not the answer.  Good luck! ^u^  
    reply 1 day
    FloraTheWolf
    FloraTheWolf posted in Friends:
    And you can add me as a friend if you want :D
    reply 1 day

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