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Dear Dish-It, My Friend Is Being Neglected

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Dear Dish-It,

I wrote a letter not too long ago about my pal Andrew, and how he is neglected. He comes down to our softball practices in no shirt, ripped jeans, and no shoes. His dog has a huge room all to itself in their rinky-dink shack of a house, and Andrew sleeps on the floor in a closet. His dad is in jail, and his mom drives a bus out of state every two weeks and is gone for days at a time. I really need some advice. Do I buy him some shoes, socks, pants, etc.? Or do I just stay out of it? PLEASE ANSWER SOON!
spyware315


Dear spyware315,

It's really cool that you're looking out for the well-being of your friend, when even his own parents don't seem to be doing so. When a kid is being neglected, it's a pretty serious matter - one that a new pair of shoes probably won't fix. But you're definitely on the right track. You can make small gestures like inviting him over for dinner, letting him spend time with you and your family and offering up some of your lunch next time you're in the cafeteria together. Also, instead of running out to buy him brand new clothes, why not offer him some of your old clothes that you would probably be giving away to good will anyway. A lot of the time when people are in need of help, they don't know how to ask for it, and it makes it easier when those around them don't make a huge deal about it. You should also get a trusted adult involved in helping Andrew. Whether it's your 'rents or a school counselor, someone should know about his situation so they can attempt to get him the help he really needs. Hope this helps - Good Luck!


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    poooodle

    poooodle wrote:

    Wat is so ssd
    commented: Sun Jun 29, 2014

    Liyah_Mahone

    Liyah_Mahone wrote:

    i would be there for him if he would be going though a tough time thats what friends ar...
    commented: Tue Jul 23, 2013

    lillyflower637
    That really sucks. I read the story and it made me want to help him SO bad. You sound l...
    commented: Thu Jul 18, 2013

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