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Dear Dish-It, How Do I Get a Life?

Dear Dish-It,

I'm 14 years old and all I do all day is sit at home and watch TV, or I am on the computer all the time. This is also hurting my confidence with girls because I'm afraid I will seem boring to them. How do I get a life and start doing things with it?
confusedkid510


Dear confusedkid510,

Watching a lot of TV or spending a lot of time on the computer doesn't mean you're a boring guy, cuz it's cool to be computer savvy and know what's going on in the entertainment world. But you're right - you do need to start doing other things with your life cuz kids your age need fresh air! The easiest way to get out and about is to stick around after school. Your school offers lots of extracurricular activities, so don't even think about rushing home as soon as the bell strikes three tomorrow! Since you love computers, why don't you join the computer club? If you enjoy watching cartoons, check out the comic book club - you may even find that you have an undiscovered drawing talent. And if you want to play sports, try out everything from badminton to basketball. Joining an extracurricular club will help you meet kids who are into the same sorta stuff that you're into - and one of those people could possibly be a really nice girl who shares your interests! Some other stuff you should try doing is to head to your local theater to watch a must-see movie like Rocky Balboa or Happy Feet. You can grab a milkshake and a slice of pizza at the mall afterwards, or go to the arcade to put your video-gaming skills to good use! You're bound to get to know your classmates and other kids your age at these hangouts and, before you know it, your social calendar will be so jam-packed that you may even want to stay home once in awhile to make a date with the tube.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    Hmm, okay, well I'll try to give you the best advice that I can, Error. So you say you don't like your friend for a number of reasons: Liar, bad influence, uses swear words, too blunt, etc. I feel like some of these could be over-looked, such as the swearing and the 'bad influence' part. Really, all you have to do is just not copy her actions, and they won't be influential at all. If you disagree, it shouldn't be hard to just refuse to follow in her steps. However, lying isn't the best quality I would look for in a friend.  She doesn't seem like an enjoyable person to be around in general, which is why you are making this post, obviously. But I'm gonna ask you something here. Don't you think that, in a way, you're lying too? You're pretending to be her friend solely for purposes of monetary value because, I assume, your family cannot pay for or get you to gymnastic class themselves. If this is true, that's kind of bad, isn't it? It sounds like, to me, that your friendship isn't exactly a healthy relationship at all. But I'm gonna sympathize with you, since I know gymnastics must be important to you, and you wouldn't be doing this if you didn't have a good reason. So, what should you do about it? Well, personally I think there are a few things you could do. You could stop being her friend, therefore no longer having to deal with her; but in the process lose access to your gymnastics class and have to look for it in another way. On the flip side, you could continue to put up with her, which would probably not be in your best interests, but you'd still get to attend your class. Or, you could try talking to her about it. Ask her what she really thinks of your friendship, if she actually values you as her friend. Maybe you two can talk about problems that you're having with each other and work on fixing them. This option could have negative effects, since she might want to stop being your friend or things could become very awkward after that. But it's probably your best bet to be honest with her, as you'd hope she would be with you. How about if you tried being really nice to her? Kindness is contagious, and perhaps if you treat her well enough, she'll start doing the same to you. I feel like maybe if you complimented her, told her things that you really like about her, maybe even got her gifts or made her food once in a while, that she would come to appreciate you and all that you do for her. And in turn, she might start to respect you more herself, and become a good friend. That's about all I can say. If you're close enough with her mom, maybe you could even try asking her about her daughter and see if she can give you any advice. Hopefully that helped in some way, but if it didn't, maybe it at least made you think? I hope your problem gets resolved, Error, and you can be content with the outcome of it. :-)
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