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Dear Dish-It,

I'm 14 years old and all I do all day is sit at home and watch TV, or I am on the computer all the time. This is also hurting my confidence with girls because I'm afraid I will seem boring to them. How do I get a life and start doing things with it?
confusedkid510


Dear confusedkid510,

Watching a lot of TV or spending a lot of time on the computer doesn't mean you're a boring guy, cuz it's cool to be computer savvy and know what's going on in the entertainment world. But you're right - you do need to start doing other things with your life cuz kids your age need fresh air! The easiest way to get out and about is to stick around after school. Your school offers lots of extracurricular activities, so don't even think about rushing home as soon as the bell strikes three tomorrow! Since you love computers, why don't you join the computer club? If you enjoy watching cartoons, check out the comic book club - you may even find that you have an undiscovered drawing talent. And if you want to play sports, try out everything from badminton to basketball. Joining an extracurricular club will help you meet kids who are into the same sorta stuff that you're into - and one of those people could possibly be a really nice girl who shares your interests! Some other stuff you should try doing is to head to your local theater to watch a must-see movie like Rocky Balboa or Happy Feet. You can grab a milkshake and a slice of pizza at the mall afterwards, or go to the arcade to put your video-gaming skills to good use! You're bound to get to know your classmates and other kids your age at these hangouts and, before you know it, your social calendar will be so jam-packed that you may even want to stay home once in awhile to make a date with the tube.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    MonasYou

    MonasYou wrote:

    OMG TV XDD
    commented: Thu Jul 17, 2014

    Skipley

    Skipley wrote:

    That's my life in a nutshell....
    commented: Fri Jan 03, 2014

    no1really

    no1really wrote:

    thats like exactly how my life is lol
    commented: Thu Jan 02, 2014

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    "ThunderSpirit" wrote:Wow. We have more in common than I thought.I had the same problem [except she was a little less mean] and this is the advice I was given. Don't exactly go up to her and say, "I don't wanna be friends," because although she is mean, she still might be hurt. Just don't really make it official, but slowly drift apart from her. Try to meet new people, maybe there's someone great you just haven't met yet. And maybe she's having problems of her own, not like that's an excuse. But in the end, if she does apologize to you, she might be a friend worth keeping, but those insults were pretty serious, not something best friends would do, and you probably wouldn't forgive her. I get that. Thanks for the good advice! I don`t see her often so drifting away is the smartest idea. Although I see her at family parties and stuff cause she is a family friend. I`ll try and drift away from her. If she gets better at being kind I`ll be her friend again most likely. Thanks! 
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