Dear Dish-It, How Do I Get a Life?

Dear Dish-It,

I'm 14 years old and all I do all day is sit at home and watch TV, or I am on the computer all the time. This is also hurting my confidence with girls because I'm afraid I will seem boring to them. How do I get a life and start doing things with it?

Dear confusedkid510,

Watching a lot of TV or spending a lot of time on the computer doesn't mean you're a boring guy, cuz it's cool to be computer savvy and know what's going on in the entertainment world. But you're right - you do need to start doing other things with your life cuz kids your age need fresh air! The easiest way to get out and about is to stick around after school. Your school offers lots of extracurricular activities, so don't even think about rushing home as soon as the bell strikes three tomorrow! Since you love computers, why don't you join the computer club? If you enjoy watching cartoons, check out the comic book club - you may even find that you have an undiscovered drawing talent. And if you want to play sports, try out everything from badminton to basketball. Joining an extracurricular club will help you meet kids who are into the same sorta stuff that you're into - and one of those people could possibly be a really nice girl who shares your interests! Some other stuff you should try doing is to head to your local theater to watch a must-see movie like Rocky Balboa or Happy Feet. You can grab a milkshake and a slice of pizza at the mall afterwards, or go to the arcade to put your video-gaming skills to good use! You're bound to get to know your classmates and other kids your age at these hangouts and, before you know it, your social calendar will be so jam-packed that you may even want to stay home once in awhile to make a date with the tube.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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