Kw-logo-holiday

Dear Dish-It, I'm Struggling With My Social Life

Dish-It helps teens who are having problems in their social life.
Social Life Problems

Dear Dish-It,

My name is Misha and I'm a talented, poetic, musical, anti-cool, individualistic hard rocker who should have been a teen in the 70s. I'm in the 8th grade and am struggling with my social life. People I thought were my friends before this year have suddenly taken up a liking of making fun of me just for my reaction, especially since a new jerk, err, kid showed up. I used to have longer hair and people were always pressuring me to cut it, so I go and get it styled and they say it looks even stupider than before! I have said some really stupid things to them before that they use as blackmail, but these people in my school do not understand my social predicament. I had two best friends and they both moved away two years in a row - one after the other. I became really isolated and seemed to play video games all the time. After last year at summer camp, I became a rock and roll junkie and people were mad at that too. Even worse, one of my good friends is still hanging with those jerks I mentioned before. I have never had a girlfriend and to top that off, I have no idea who to ask to my school dance... I need some social help... What should I do?
PS. One of those guys at school is saying that I'm not an individual person and the music I write is terrible - yet he can't tell a note from a bottle of toothpaste!
Hardrockguitar


Dear Hardrockguitar,

Welcome to high school - a place where the people you thought were your friends a year ago probably won't give you the time of day and kids you never would have imagined talking to will become your life-long pals. Adjusting to life after elementary school is rarely easy for anyone - especially though for those of us who are a bit "different." You march to the beat of your own hard-rockin' drum while your classmates groove to their mainstream radio stations. And because of these differences in personality, there are bound to be clashes. It sounds like you are pretty comfortable in your own skin and know who you are. Don't let some former friends make you feel like you need to change in order to be cool enough to hang out with them. If they aren't willing to accept you for you, then they clearly aren't worthy of your friendship.


It is tough to find real, genuine friends, but as long as you stay true to yourself, other people who share your interests will recognize your confidence and will want to be around you. As for having a girlfriend - or even just getting a date to the dance - those things will happen for you when the time is right. If you're interested in a particular girl, just ask her to go with you. If she says no, don't let that discourage you from trying again with someone else in the future. Your social woes are not going to disappear over night, but if you just keep being you, and do your best to ignore the jerks that are just trying to bring you down, things will fall into place for you soon enough! Good Luck.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


Related Stories:

  • Dear Dish-It, I Want to Change My Image
  • Dear Dish-It, How Do I Update My Wardrobe?
  • Dear Dish-It, I'm in Love With a Goth
  • >

    readers voted!

    Comments

    Ash334

    Ash334 wrote:

    I spend a lot of time by myself.
    commented: Mon Aug 04, 2014

    Dope_202

    Dope_202 wrote:

    Totally true that happens to me!
    commented: Fri Jul 25, 2014

    blooface

    blooface wrote:

    I felt the same way but if you can find a old friend who has been there every year you'll have a true friend
    commented: Wed Aug 28, 2013

    there are 9 more comments

    Please login or register to add comments


    like this article?
    Sign up now to get more just like it!

    latest videos

    F1151356255968

    Are You a Social Butterfly?

    • Yeah, I'm friends with all the crowds.
    • I've got a solid group of friends.
    • I'm not super social, but I have one or two close friends.
    • I tend to spend a lot of time by myself.

    related stories

    I have a problem. I think I'm depressed. For the last two weeks I've been drinking vodka from the...

    Dear Dish-It in the forums

    lawliet16
    lawliet16 posted in Style:
    What`s wrong with not being popular especially if the basis is just your physical attributes which is really shallow. You just have to be yourself and embrace that quirkiness or "weird" sense of style because that makes you unique from them and stop degrading yourself by thinking that you don`t look "right". There are other ways to be popular which are more impressive like those involving talents and intelligence. If you`re going to change, do it for yourself and not just to be part of the "popular" girls. 
    reply 20 minutes
    brilliantstudent
    brilliantstudent posted in Style:
    Simple and Sober but elegant and Classy.
    reply 24 minutes
    PrincessAmelia
    PrincessAmelia posted in Style:
    Natural. Suiting to the place I am in.
    reply 33 minutes
    Charulata
    Charulata posted in Style:
    Simple :-) 
    reply 36 minutes
    caitlin290
    caitlin290 posted in Friends:
    green diamond 
    reply about 1 hour

    play online games

    Hour-of-code-tumb

    Codey the troll is lost! Help him avoid obstacles and get back into the computer...

    Candy-quest-feature

    Your troll is lost! Help it avoid obstacles and get back into the computer.

    Fo...

    Dragon-dash

    Your dragon must return to guard the treasure! Help it gather lost coins and avo...

    _thumb_100x100

    Shoot blobs with different properties to merge yellow blobs. Your blobs can be r...

    1005_cc_kidz_100x100_vlh

    Candy's got her candies into a terrible mess, can you help her to sort them out?

    Candy-100

    A great online version of the famous Candy Crush. This is the best game launched...

    _thumb_100x100

    Bloons 2 is here! A worthy and awesome sequel at last to our original Bloons gam...

    Frostbox_100x100

    Explore the world or hang out with friends in your own condo. Get a unique look,...