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Dear Dish-It, I Have A BF But My Mom Doesn't Know


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Dear Dish-It,

I'm 10, about to turn 11, and I have a boyfriend named Jerry. How do I tell my mom? I think she will just say no... or should I not tell her? She thinks I'm still her baby, but I'm not. If she says no, then I'm still going to go with him.
adw


Dear adw,

You should definitely tell your mom. What everyone always forgets is, parents were young once too. She may surprise you and not freak out. Of course, she may also not surprise you and freak out. Either way, keepin' stuff from your parents isn't a good idea. It makes you look sketchy and shady when they do find out - and they always do. If she's against the idea of you dating, ask her why - and LISTEN to the reasons. Then, tell her why you don't think you're too young to date and ask her to listen to your reasons. There may be a happy medium you can work out... like you'll only see him during school hours or you won't hang out alone with him. As for your mom thinkin' you're "still her baby," you are. You'll be "her baby" even when you're 82 years old. It's just the way moms are and you just gotta cut her some slack on that one.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,.


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    moongemowl
    moongemowl posted in Friends:
    Okay, I've NEVER posted anything about my friends before, so bear with me. I've known that me and my BFF have the same crush since we met in 5th grade. But it always seems that my BFF is closer to him than I'll ever be. They went to 2 school dances together while I'm still in the friend zone with my crush. I pretend to not care but I really do care. I've never been in this situation before and don't know what to do about it. Should I tell my BFF how I feel or wait this whole thing out? Or even forget my crush being my crush and find a new crush? HELP!!!!!   :love :confused
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    jordand08
    Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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    jordand08
    You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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    hugebear
    hugebear posted in Family Issues:
    You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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    Mrawsomegamer
    I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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