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Dear Dish-It, I've Never Had a BF


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Dear Dish-It,

Ok, here's the thing - one of my best friends just told me that he likes me. Well I like him too, but I've never had a boyfriend before. We already had a fling but it didn't work, and we're at that same stage again. I want to go out with him, but my friends are bugging me about it and saying you should go out with him. I want to but they keep bugging me. I don't know what to do... I don't know how to tell him how I feel, cuz I've never had a boyfriend before.
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Dear sweatart,

It's good that you're cautious about starting things up with your best friend after things didn't work out the first time. You need to listen to your heart and ignore all your friends telling you what to do. Before you go making any decisions, you need to remember why it was things fell apart the first time you guys hooked up, and think about whether or not things will be different this time. The key to making things work is being really honest with this guy. Tell him straight up that you're nervous about getting involved with him because you've never had a boyfriend and you don't want things to go the same way they did the last time.


Instead of rushing into kissing him the second you see him in school, you should probably just take things really slow. Go out on a real date, eat lunch together, talk to each other on the phone. These are all things that boyfriends and girlfriends do. You need to figure out if you're actually interested in each other on a dating level or if you just like the idea of having a BF. If you two are going to be a couple, you'll have to get used to the idea of sharing your feelings with him, so what better time than now to start that? Good Luck!


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