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Dear Dish-It, My Cousin Thinks I Smoke

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Dear Dish-It,

I'm so close to my older cousin, but for some reason she thinks I smoke WHEN I DON'T AT ALL! She won't believe me when I say I don't and she isn't talking to me and says she hates me! But I haven't even done anything wrong! How can I get her to believe me? I'd do anything to get her back! Please, please, please help. I'm so upset I can't sleep! Thanks.
gemma x


Dear gemma,

Why do you think your cousin jumped to the conclusion that you've been smoking if you haven't? Do any of your friends smoke, or have they in the past? As I'm sure you already know, smoking is extremely hazardous to your health and is extremely addictive. I doubt that your cousin actually hates you, but she is probably just very frustrated, thinking that you are doing something that could really harm you. If your cuz won't sit down and let you explain yourself, why not write her a letter? If you have tried smoking in the past, let her know that you have but haven't tried it since. Being honest with a person is the best way to win back their trust. If you seriously have never even attempted to smoke, then tell her that. Make sure you are very clear with her that you are aware of how stupid smoking is and that you definitely aren't about to take it up as a habit. Also let her know how important her friendship and support is to you. Chances are she's just looking out for you and will be happy to know that she was wrong about the smoking thing. Good luck!


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    JennyD

    JennyD wrote:

    why would think that
    commented: Mon Sep 09, 2013

    jjz98

    jjz98 wrote:

    Horrible
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    InternetOwl
    What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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    ElfyKathy
    Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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    NianiNaturallyNerdy3
    She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
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    NianiNaturallyNerdy3
    It may be hard but break it down to them we aren't friends but we can be associates. It may leave them a bit dissappointed but tell them we aren't in the same category to be as close as friends. 
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