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Dear Dish-It, My Cousin Thinks I Smoke

Dear Dish-It,

I'm so close to my older cousin, but for some reason she thinks I smoke WHEN I DON'T AT ALL! She won't believe me when I say I don't and she isn't talking to me and says she hates me! But I haven't even done anything wrong! How can I get her to believe me? I'd do anything to get her back! Please, please, please help. I'm so upset I can't sleep! Thanks.
gemma x


Dear gemma,

Why do you think your cousin jumped to the conclusion that you've been smoking if you haven't? Do any of your friends smoke, or have they in the past? As I'm sure you already know, smoking is extremely hazardous to your health and is extremely addictive. I doubt that your cousin actually hates you, but she is probably just very frustrated, thinking that you are doing something that could really harm you. If your cuz won't sit down and let you explain yourself, why not write her a letter? If you have tried smoking in the past, let her know that you have but haven't tried it since. Being honest with a person is the best way to win back their trust. If you seriously have never even attempted to smoke, then tell her that. Make sure you are very clear with her that you are aware of how stupid smoking is and that you definitely aren't about to take it up as a habit. Also let her know how important her friendship and support is to you. Chances are she's just looking out for you and will be happy to know that she was wrong about the smoking thing. Good luck!


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    BookWorm86
    This is GREAT advice! Thx a lot StephRox!:) I have a younger brother & he can be EXASPERATING at times lol! Great advice!!:D
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    Arenl
    Arenl posted in Family Issues:
    My little brother is annoying as ever, but I have to handle him. He is my brother after all.
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    Arenl
    Arenl posted in Family Issues:
    @Sophieeee I definitely agree with you.
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    Sophieeee
     Loosing a parent is hard, your dad knows that and I'm sure that he misses your mom just as much as you do. Whether you explain to him how you are feeling or not, you should know that your Dad will always love you and admitting to him how you feel isn't going to change that. Although it is completely understandable how you feel, you need to let your dad move one eventually. It's not fair to him if he has to spend the rest of his life alone. Even though you might not see it, its a good thin that your dad is finally feeling comfortable enough to date. It doesn't mean that he is letting go of your mom or that he will forget about her, it means that he is moving on with his life. You lost your mother and he lost the love of his life. Dating other people will probably start off being just as hard for him as it is for you. My advice is that you talk to your dad. Let him know how you feel in the most gentle and understanding way that you can. Don't flat out say that you don't want him dating anyone, tell him that you still miss your mom and its hard to see him with other people. Let me know how it goes, good luck. :)
    reply about 7 hours