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Dear Dish-It,

I'm 14 and just started high school. I've got several friends. Anyway, back about three of four years ago, I met this really hot girl from my class and we became great friends. I would call her every single day to talk to her. I would tell her all my problems and she would come to me first if she had any problems. Me, her and my other best friend would get together all the time to watch movies and stuff. We'd talk like nothing could ruin our friendship. To put into words, I'd gladly take a bullet for this girl. You probably think this is sappy and everything but I'm serious. My god, I've written songs about us! But to get to the point now - I just started high school and we both have a bunch of new friends. But it seems like I'm invisible to her. Just today I was walking along in the hall and she was smiling ear to ear, and of course I thought she was happy to see me so I said hi and she just walked right on by. I found out that one of her new friends was walking right behind me. I also heard her name off all her "crew" to some chick and she didn't mention my name. I don't know what to do. I can't sleep at night because of this. Please help!

Dear Beave,

Starting high school is a big adjustment. You are thrown into a brand new school with tons of new people to meet and sometimes old friendships are tested a little. It sounds like your friend has gotten caught up in trying to fit in with new crowds and sorting out who she's going to be. This doesn't mean she doesn't want to be your friend anymore. Chances are she doesn't even realize that her actions have hurt your feelings. If she's such a great friend, why not try talking to her? Call her up and just see how she's doing. Instead of getting mad, just ask her how she's liking high school and subtly mention that you miss hanging out with her. Invite her over for a study session or ask her if she wants to hit the mall on the weekend. It's important for you both to branch out and meet new people, but that doesn't mean that you still can't be good friends. It'll just take a little effort from both of you! Good Luck.

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