Dear Dish-It, My Mom's Having a New Baby

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Dear Dish-It,

My mom's having a baby and I've been stressed ever since she got remarried. Then my aunt died and it really hurt me. Please help!
abby

Dear abby,

It sounds like you've had a lot of big things to deal with recently, so it's understandable that you would be stressed out. To lose a loved one at the same time as your mom is beginning a new life, it must feel like your life is being turned upside down. Add a new baby to that equation and you've got some serious chaos. While this is definitely a tough situation, it's not one that is completely hopeless. You are probably feeling a little neglected by your mom who is focusing most of her attention on her new marriage and the soon-to-be new child.

One way for you and your mom to bond is for you to get involved with some of the baby stuff. You're probably not super excited to suddenly have a new sibling on the way, but the more you get involved, the easier it will be on you and your parents. It's also a good idea to try and schedule some time with just you and your mom once and awhile. Whether it's shopping, a trip to the movies or just lunch every once and awhile, it's important that you and your mom make time for one another, especially now that there's a new baby on the way. You need to tell your mom how all of these changes have made you feel, cuz she may not realize how disrupting this has been on you. You should also think about all the good things that will come out of having a sibling. There are tons of fun things you can teach and share with him or her like how to put on make-up or how to catch a baseball. Assembling some sort of scrapbook for the baby to look at when they are older is also a cool way of bonding and it's a good creative outlet. Hope this has helped - Good Luck!

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