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Dear Dish-It, My BF Gets Mad and Takes It Out on Me!

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Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend is really sweet and nice sometimes, but a lot of times, he gets really mad and takes it out on me! I really like him, but I'm scared to say anything to him because I don't want to make him mad or make things worse. What should I do?
risk_taker


Dear risk_taker,

You need to break up with him, girl. The sooner, the better! It's normal for people to get mad, but what's important is how they deal with their anger. If your boyfriend is taking his anger out on you, whether it's by making insulting comments or physically hurting you, he's definitely not dealing with his anger in a good way. You shouldn't put up with him or his behavior, so kick him to the curb and get as far away from him as possible! If you don't break up with him now, he'll just have more chances to hurt you.


If you continue to feel scared, or even threatened by him, talk to your parents, teachers or a school counselor. It's actually a good idea to talk to them now and fill them in on the situation so they can keep an eye on him. I said it before, but I'll say it again - break up with him now. He's not worth your time if he doesn't treat you well 24/7. That doesn't mean he has to pamper you and worship the ground you walk on (but wouldn't that be nice?); it means he has to treat you with respect. You deserve better and you know it!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    Abusive and Cheating Boyfriend = BREAK UP... ASAP!!! Sweet, Loving & Caring Boyfrie...
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