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Dear Dish-It, My Best Friend Smokes for Attention

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Dear Dish-It,

My best friend smokes. She smokes for attention and it is killing me. I'm soooooooo lost! Help me please.
liljj0789


Dear liljj0789,

Have you told your BFF how you feel about her nasty little habit? If you haven't, you should - and don't candy-coat it. It sounds like it bothers you a lot and she should know that. After all, best friends are supposed to be honest with each other, right? You should also explain to her that there's a big difference between good attention and bad attention. Smoking isn't getting her any positive attention from anyone. Smart people know it's not cool to smoke and that it's just plain stupid. It causes cancer, lung problems and so many more health problems, not to mention it causes a bad complexion, bad breath, stinky hair and clothes - and makes you get wrinkles faster. If she's already addicted to her "look-at-me" habit, then encourage her to go to a guidance counselor or someone else she trusts to help her quit. You can also check out www.tobaccofree.org for more tips on how to help your friend quit smoking.


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    MewSilver

    MewSilver wrote:

    Smoking should never exist =.=
    commented: Sat Nov 30, 2013

    :)CrAzYcAkE:)

    :)CrAzYcAkE:) wrote:

    i think smoking for attaition is just plain stupid and self centered and its not gonna ...
    commented: Mon Nov 12, 2012

    rose52302

    rose52302 wrote:

    Just be honest with her. If she a true friend, she'll stop. But remember, it's hard to ...
    commented: Mon Nov 12, 2012

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