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Dear Dish-It: My BFF Hates Listening To My Problems

My BFF Hates It When I Talk About My Problems
My BFF Hates It When I Talk About My Problems

Dear Dish-It,

I really need your help. My so-called BFF hates it when I talk about my problems. Like today, she complained when I started to talk about my boyfriend. You see, she had dated him before me and hates when I say his name. She’s been in an on-off mood with me for over a week. I told her that BFFs are supposed to be there for each other but she won’t listen to me!!!

gem365


Dear gem365,


It’s pretty clear to me what the problem here is. You are dating your BFF’s ex-boyfriend. What I suggest is that you try and put yourself in HER shoes. How would YOU feel if SHE started dating YOUR ex? I can’t imagine you’d feel very good about it at all. You didn’t mention in your question whether or not you and your BFF talked about you going out with her ex before you started the relationship, but even if you did and she told you she was fine with it, you must see now that it’s not OK with her at all. I think you need to seriously consider who is more important to you: your BFF or your BF? I mean, sure, you can always try and talk to her about it, ask her if she’s got a problem with it and see if you can come up with some sort of solution, but in my experience dating the ex of a friend never works out well. Decide who you need in your life more – your BFF or your BF – and do what you need to do to make sure that person sticks around.



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    xXGawdImEmoXx

    xXGawdImEmoXx wrote:

    What a sticky situation
    commented: Thu Jul 17, 2014

    xfacorchic

    xfacorchic wrote:

    I think you should find another friend, your so called best friends doesn't deserve you!
    commented: Wed Oct 03, 2012

    ktcheetogirl

    ktcheetogirl wrote:

    My "friend" is the same way. All she talks about is HER problems, it's so annoying, isn...
    commented: Sat May 19, 2012

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