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Dear Dish-it: Should I Call him?

Dear Dish-it,


There was this guy that everyone (even his best friend) said liked me for two years. And, to tell you the truth, I liked him. After those two years, I moved suddenly, and no one really knew if I was coming back the next year (not even me). I didn't come back. I'm wanting to get in touch with him because it feels like things aren't settled, but I don't know how to get in touch without asking one of my friends from my old school about it (and you know how embarrassing that could be). What should I do?


Geco


Dear Geco,


If you really want to get in touch with this guy, then go ahead and ask a friend from your old school how you should do that. But make sure it’s something that really needs to be done – rather than something you just think needs to be done.


When it comes to relationships between girls and guys, call me old fashioned, but I usually think it’s best to let the guy get in touch with you, rather than the other way around (unless, of course, it’s an emergency). Why? Well, girls and guys are very different creatures. Girls love to feel loved and wanted, and guys like to feel like they’re needed by someone and accomplishing something on their own. If you contact him, you’re not only denying yourself the feeling of being loved and wanted by someone, you’re also denying him the feeling of doing something on his own.


If it’s possible, I say the best thing to do is to move on. You’ve already moved physically from where you last lived, from your old school, friends and crush – now it’s time to move on emotionally, and try to connect with some new people who are closer to you, physically.


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if u really like him than yea but if u just board its not wroth it. and long distance d...
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i think you u should date him ♥ :)
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Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
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brunostar
brunostar posted in Friends:
You want someone who cares, understands and will be there for you, and not just when you're down. You want someone who makes you smile and laugh at 3 am and you have to try not to giggle in class because of something that happened a weeks ago. Everyone fights, but you don't want someone who you constantly fight with and who makes you feel down or drops your self-esteem. If someone bothers you to do bad stuff, walk the other direction and don't take in the negative force. I'm the type of person that takes people in for who they are, I care and listen and try my best to make them laugh and be happy. I have gotten mixed with bad friends as in talking me into negative things, constantly making me feel down, ditching for other people, insulting other friends. I need to change how I act, I seem to annoy and bother people a lot. And possibly I care too much, I also at times understand too little. I get attached to easily and hurt easily. I don't know what else you asked so imma end this now xD
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MissD
MissD posted in Friends:
Describe the perfect friend in your opinion.  In what ways are you a good friend? What do you need to do to become a better friend?  What do you think? 
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MissD
MissD posted in Friends:
Honestly? They aren't safe for you. Depression is difficult to overcome. Especially when people are negative about it around you. If they refuse to believe you, then there is no point trying to be friends with them again. Some people just don't accept mental problems or swear that they are being faked. I never quite understood why people don't acknowledge it, but whatever. Moving on from that, you should find friends that you don't need to pretend around - depression isn't too uncommon. Look and listen. You'll find the right people - they just proved that they weren't it. No one can go back and make a brand-new start, but anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending!  I really like the post above me, Huntress that was really good advice. I have a theory, there are two kinds of people in the world, Vampires and Sunshine. The vampires, take from us: they suck our self esteem, positive thoughts, smiles, energy.. YUCK. Sunshine on the other hand, gives and gives. You feel warmer just being around sunshine people, they lift you up, remind you about your good qualities, cheer for you and help you be your best most true self.  Here is the other thing about Vampires and Sunshine - Vampires tend to run in packs, they draw their power from taking other peoples away - and IMO they are insatiable. Sunshine people are awesome, even if you only have one in your life - it's enough.  I hope you will look around and see if you can spot the difference, I'd love to know if you have at least one Sunshine person in your life - let go of those horrible vampires, in the end you will feel much better for having made that empowered decision!!  Good Luck! 
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Huntress
Huntress posted in Friends:
Honestly? They aren't safe for you. Depression is difficult to overcome. Especially when people are negative about it around you. If they refuse to believe you, then there is no point trying to be friends with them again. Some people just don't accept mental problems or swear that they are being faked. I never quite understood why people don't acknowledge it, but whatever. Moving on from that, you should find friends that you don't need to pretend around - depression isn't too uncommon. Look and listen. You'll find the right people - they just proved that they weren't it.
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