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Dear Dish-it: Should I Call him?

Dear Dish-it,


There was this guy that everyone (even his best friend) said liked me for two years. And, to tell you the truth, I liked him. After those two years, I moved suddenly, and no one really knew if I was coming back the next year (not even me). I didn't come back. I'm wanting to get in touch with him because it feels like things aren't settled, but I don't know how to get in touch without asking one of my friends from my old school about it (and you know how embarrassing that could be). What should I do?


Geco


Dear Geco,


If you really want to get in touch with this guy, then go ahead and ask a friend from your old school how you should do that. But make sure it’s something that really needs to be done – rather than something you just think needs to be done.


When it comes to relationships between girls and guys, call me old fashioned, but I usually think it’s best to let the guy get in touch with you, rather than the other way around (unless, of course, it’s an emergency). Why? Well, girls and guys are very different creatures. Girls love to feel loved and wanted, and guys like to feel like they’re needed by someone and accomplishing something on their own. If you contact him, you’re not only denying yourself the feeling of being loved and wanted by someone, you’re also denying him the feeling of doing something on his own.


If it’s possible, I say the best thing to do is to move on. You’ve already moved physically from where you last lived, from your old school, friends and crush – now it’s time to move on emotionally, and try to connect with some new people who are closer to you, physically.


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moongemowl
moongemowl posted in Friends:
Okay, I've NEVER posted anything about my friends before, so bear with me. I've known that me and my BFF have the same crush since we met in 5th grade. But it always seems that my BFF is closer to him than I'll ever be. They went to 2 school dances together while I'm still in the friend zone with my crush. I pretend to not care but I really do care. I've never been in this situation before and don't know what to do about it. Should I tell my BFF how I feel or wait this whole thing out? Or even forget my crush being my crush and find a new crush? HELP!!!!!   :love :confused
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jordand08
Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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jordand08
You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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