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Dear Dish-It, I'm the Best My GF Will Ever Have


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Dear Dish-It,

Ok, I met this girl this year that totally rocks! She is the coolest girl ever (we're 15.) We started going out a few months ago and I'm encountering some problems. First of all, I feel under-appreciated. I'm pretty popular at school and well... she's not (which I don't care and don't rub in her face, I even deny I'm popular.) I'm not trying to sound like a jerk but I'm the best boyfriend she'll ever have! She acts kind of mean to me, really. Second...SHE WON'T KISS ME! I ask her why and she gets mad. Thirdly, anywhere we go her mommy has to tag along! We're almost driving and her mommy is sitting in the movies with us... very ANNOYING! What do I do? Dump her?
bookerTfan


Dear bookerTfan,

Wow, you're right - your GF really has snagged the ultimate boyfriend. It's not everyday a girl can find a guy willing to lower his standards to date her. Can you sense my sarcasm here? First you say how awesome your girl is and then go on to rant about how she doesn't appreciate how popular you are. If she's such a cool girl, why are you still dwelling on her level of popularity? You say it doesn't bother you, but that's the first thing you focused on in your letter. If you want to make it work with this girl I think you have to sit down and talk about what's working and what's not. Leave out the part about how you're the best BF she'll ever have though - otherwise your dilemma of whether to dump her or not will be solved when she breaks up with you right then and there.


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    "classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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