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Dear Dish-It, Everyone Says We Should Date

Dear Dish-It,

I really like this boy in my year and he's like my best friend. Everyone says we should go out cuz we hug and talk about everything. He flirts with me a lot, but when someone says we should go out, he says no. He's been out with my sister too. I'm really confused! Should I ask him out?
dR


Dear dR,

You're not the only one who's confused. You say he flirts with you, but he's been out with your sister too? There's one of three possibilities for what's going on here. One, he only thinks of you as a friend. Two, he's still into your sister. And three, he likes you but is scared to ruin your friendship - maybe that's why he says no when people suggest that the two of you should hook up. If it's scenario number one, take comfort in knowing that you have a really great guy friend who you can talk to about everything and who you can go to when you need a guy's perspective on something. If it's scenario number two, it's not cool of him to be leading you on to get close to your sister - and you'll have to tell him that if that's the case. But, if it's scenario number three, hold off on asking him out just yet cuz he might need more time to think things through. Try to hang out more often at school, like between classes and during lunch, and soon, you'll be able to tell if he's crushin' on you too. Keep in mind that a lot of great relationships start out as friendships, so there could definitely be some potential for a relationship with this guy in the future.


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    -Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
    "jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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    donteatcarrots
    talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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    donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
    Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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    donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
    Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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    kittenkid
    First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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