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Dear Dish-It, Everyone Says We Should Date

Dish-It serves up advice about what to do when you like your friend as more than a friend.
Advice About Dating

Dear Dish-It,

I really like this boy in my year and he's like my best friend. Everyone says we should go out cuz we hug and talk about everything. He flirts with me a lot, but when someone says we should go out, he says no. He's been out with my sister too. I'm really confused! Should I ask him out?
dR


Dear dR,

You're not the only one who's confused. You say he flirts with you, but he's been out with your sister too? There's one of three possibilities for what's going on here. One, he only thinks of you as a friend. Two, he's still into your sister. And three, he likes you but is scared to ruin your friendship - maybe that's why he says no when people suggest that the two of you should hook up. If it's scenario number one, take comfort in knowing that you have a really great guy friend who you can talk to about everything and who you can go to when you need a guy's perspective on something. If it's scenario number two, it's not cool of him to be leading you on to get close to your sister - and you'll have to tell him that if that's the case. But, if it's scenario number three, hold off on asking him out just yet cuz he might need more time to think things through. Try to hang out more often at school, like between classes and during lunch, and soon, you'll be able to tell if he's crushin' on you too. Keep in mind that a lot of great relationships start out as friendships, so there could definitely be some potential for a relationship with this guy in the future.


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