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Dear Dish-it: Humiliating Dad

Dear Dish-it,


How do I escape from an embarrassing dad? Sometimes when we're outside together he treats me like a 5 year old and I'm 10! Help me!


Embarrassed Girl


Dear EG,


I totally know how you feel about being daddy’s little girl. It’s a tough spot to get out of because, well, he is your dad. Although the whole situation won’t turn around in a blink of an eye, you can definitely get it moving with a couple simple steps.


Prove yourself

First of all, show him that you’re not a little girl. What are some things you do that make you're mature and able to handle some things on your own? How about cleaning your room without being asked to, or getting your homework done on time every night> Show your dad that you're not five years old anymore - and maybe he'll start treating you like more of a grown up and less of a kid.


Heart to Heart

If those subtle moves don’t do the trick, it’s time to have a dad-to-daughter talk session. There must be a reason he’s babying you or treating you like you're younger than you actually are. Find out what that reason is by asking him about it. And since he cares about you, he’s probably gonna want to hear what you have to say… about anything! So just sit him down and let him know what’s been bothering you. Of course, there’s no need to make him feel guilty. Make sure to show that you appreciate that he cares. But clearly tell him that you’re uncomfortable when he takes it too far and that you are growing up … in a way that will make him proud.


Your dad will probably always be a protective father, and it will be hard for him to let go sometimes. But showing him that you can deal with things in a grown up way might help him think of you more like an 10 year old than a 5 year old.


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Dear Dish-It In The Forums

rainbowpoptart
Goodness... I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it. There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently. Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.) ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you. If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her. Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun. Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.
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jake495
jake495 posted in Family Issues:
Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course
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ThePaleWalker636
I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing. I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives. How should I deal with this?
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drowning
drowning posted in Friends:
"NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
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drowning
I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
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