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Dear Dish-It, I'm in Love With My Best Friend

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Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

There is this guy and he has a girlfriend. He is like totally my best friend and I am starting to have feelings for him. He flirts with me and he defends me but then he talks about his girlfriend a lot. I want to ask him out but I don't want him to say no. I don't want to break up him and his girlfriend and I don't want to break up our friendship. Some people say, "Well, he's not worth it." But deep inside I love him so much! And his girlfriend now is a jerk. I just don't want him to get hurt by her. I guess I'm jealous of her but I have a major crush on him! Please help!
KATLYN


Dear KATLYN,

I still haven't figured out why so many girls fall in love with boys who are already taken. They must know they are setting themselves up for heartbreak but they keep on fooling themselves that they are the best match for the boy they are crushin' on. You need to put yourself in this other girl's shoes. How would you like it if your BF's best friend kept trying to put the moves on your guy? You may have a major crush on him but that doesn't give you the right to mess around with their happiness. Even if you don't like this girl, that's not the point. It sounds like your best friend really cares about her and as a good friend you should be supportive of that - instead of trying to break them up. If you and your best bud are meant to be, it'll happen. But for now, keep your feelings to yourself and stop trying to make other people's lives miserable to make yourself happy.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    Holley12

    Holley12 wrote:

    Um, I would ask him if he ever breaks up with his girlfriend. This happened to me over ...
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    commented: Sun Nov 20, 2011

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