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Dear Dish-It, I Said I Was Skinny


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Dear Dish-It,

This is kind of awkward. I have a question that I don't know who to ask... I'm in love with this great guy. The thing is, we've been dating for almost a year and still have not seen each other. We live half way across the country from each other. But, good news! He'll be moving here in about a month. Here's the problem though - I sort of lied about how I looked. I've been struggling with weight my whole life, and recently have trimmed down - a LOT. But I'm still not as skinny as I told him I was, though I am pretty thin now. I was planning on still losing weight until he got here because I thought I had more time, but things changed and he is coming here more than a month early. Should I tell him my secret? (Oh, and, I weigh 150, but he thinks I weigh 130, however I am tall). Please help :(
_Brittany_


Dear _Brittany_,

Take a deep breath, and stop beating yourself up about this predicament you're in. You're not the only one who has lied about their image to someone they've met online. That's kind of the appeal of internet dating - you don't have to worry about your appearance when getting to know someone. Weight is something that a lot of people struggle with, especially during your teenage years. You feel the pressure to look a certain way and the temptation to re-invent yourself online is often very easy to give into. While it is understandable why you did it, you should come clean about your little white lie before your guy arrives in town. It'll be a lot easier for him to accept if you tell the truth now instead of waiting for him to just see you when he gets there.


Explain your insecurities to him and be sure to let him know that this is the only thing you have lied about. Chances are, if he really cares about you, he'll get over it. Also, just keep this in mind - while it's important to be able to feel good about your body, don't let Hollywood or anything else make you feel bad about not looking a certain way. There are beautiful people of all shapes and sizes and as cheesy as it sounds, your guy fell for what you've got goin' on in the inside, and that's the part you didn't have to lie about!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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